| Codependence is being at war with ourselves, | | | | victim of our inner child's rage, anger, and other |
| says Robert Burney, a codependency therapist. | | | | eruptive behaviors. |
| Codependency, therefore, makes it difficult to | | | | Each wound that's healed lessens the pain and |
| love ourselves and our inner child. | | | | contributes to our becoming more whole. |
| Codependency, as an addictive behavior, involves | | | | Unfortunately, many times we resist the pain, say |
| taking responsibility for someone else's thoughts, | | | | "No" to change, and remain in reaction. Healing, on |
| feelings, or behavior. We learn to negate our own | | | | the other hand, involves giving our inner child a |
| needs and falsely believe that whatever we do is | | | | voice, the willingness to be present in the moment |
| "not enough" and therefore "we aren't good | | | | with the pain, i.e., saying "Yes," and feeling |
| enough." We have a choice to hear the voice of | | | | vulnerable. |
| our wounded inner child and to heal or to continue | | | | Choosing healing over just surviving with our |
| to live in pain and codependent patterns. | | | | recurring reactive emotional patterns takes us out |
| For those of us on a journey of self-discovery or | | | | of the victim role of giving away our power and |
| spirituality, codependency and inner child healing | | | | esteem to others, i.e., codependency. |
| remains necessary to experience greater | | | | Healing our emotional wounds allows our inner child |
| oneness. By becoming conscious of our reactive | | | | to grow, which has been an important part of my |
| emotional behaviors, we can, over time, become | | | | personal healing journey. |
| a more detached neutral observer and thus not a | | | | |