| In our Western society, we have been brought | | | | keep our chronic pain, extra weight, bad habit or |
| up to ignore our feelings. Feelings mean pain. I | | | | trauma rather than change. |
| even see women, who tend to be more in touch | | | | Our subconscious sabotages any of our efforts to |
| with their feelings; habitually push them away | | | | succeed to protect us from failure. We may fear |
| when feelings arise in many situations. We feel | | | | success. We may fear being powerful. We may |
| vulnerable among other humans and think | | | | fear we will get hurt. We have a choice to |
| expressing feelings show signs of weakness, | | | | discover our subconscious beliefs and feelings or |
| particularly for men. | | | | we can continue to ignore them and continue living |
| Our society conditions us to believe experiencing | | | | unfulfilled lives. |
| and showing feeling as unsafe. This encourages | | | | One way requires accepting whatever feeling |
| suppression and repression. Either we have | | | | arises in the moment rather than pushing it down. |
| forgotten what we once felt or we have no | | | | We embrace our feelings. This challenges us as |
| knowledge of what trauma lurks in our | | | | we have been taught differently in most of our |
| subconscious. All this would be fine if our | | | | families. We have been taught to avoid pain |
| subconscious had no power over our everyday | | | | because it hurts and our immediate response is to |
| success. It, however, does. | | | | get away from pain. I challenge you to do |
| Unknown to some of us our subconscious beliefs | | | | something different, embrace the pain. Like a child |
| and feelings have more power than our conscious | | | | when you push them away they become more |
| intents. Dr. Bruce Lipton, "Biology of Belief," says, | | | | persistent, demanding attention. Look at physical |
| "The most powerful processor of information is | | | | pain as a cry for you to pay attention to |
| the subconscious mind that runs 80 - 90% of our | | | | something in your body speaking to you, crying |
| lives. It is like an autopilot in that it can run our | | | | out for change, for healing. |
| day-to-day life without any input from the | | | | Choose to do something novel. Hold the pain as if |
| conscious mind." | | | | holding a child or baby in your arms, and accept it |
| For example, we may want to weigh less, yet | | | | as it is. Feel the pain instead of pushing it away. |
| we have a belief if we weigh less we will attract | | | | Yes, it hurts. Pushing the pain away, however, |
| more partners and have to be more intimate. We | | | | only buries it in our subconscious where it still |
| may have some sense that we fear intimacy or | | | | affects us and gnaws away at our innards like |
| maybe we have no sense of this. Either way we | | | | acid eating away metal. |
| will be unable to reduce our weight in spite our | | | | If we learn to hold pain without drowning in it or |
| best intentions and countless weight reduction | | | | getting distracted, it can transform on its own |
| programs. As a law of the universe, our | | | | without us doing anything. Like any new skill we |
| subconscious always wins for it accepts without | | | | need to practice to increase our ability. Another |
| reservation or examination literally what we | | | | option is to find a healer or therapist who knows |
| believe and feel on an unconscious level. | | | | how to hold the energy of the feeling with you as |
| Because many of our goals in life have different | | | | you learn to eventually do it on your own. |
| conscious and subconscious intents, many of us | | | | Eckhart Tolle, "The Power of Now," teaches |
| end up seldom achieving what we consciously | | | | about being in the present moment. Being present |
| intend. We only have to look at the constant | | | | with our pain means learning to stay in the now |
| battle people encounter with weight reduction as | | | | rather than the past or future. Also Eugene |
| they bounce back and forth between weighing | | | | Gendlin, "Focusing," teaches a six step method to |
| less and then regaining the same weight back. | | | | staying present with any sensation in our body, |
| Thus, we experience conflict and frustration or | | | | which also includes vague feelings. |
| hopeless and powerlessness over our lives. We | | | | (c) Copyright - Michael David Lawrience. All Rights |
| end up feeling bad about ourselves because our | | | | Reserved Worldwide. |
| subconscious mind believes it is better for us to | | | | |