| You're really frustrated. Angry. There is so much | | | | that is triggering the anger or other emotion. |
| happening in your life and you have so many | | | | - I am angry that the kids won't clean their |
| emotions floating around you can't think straight. | | | | rooms. |
| You're tired. You're moody. Ok, even irritable. | | | | - I am angry about what Betty said to me at |
| Friends are complaining. Your spouse is complaining. | | | | work yesterday. |
| Your kids hide when they see you. So you | | | | - I am angry that they put up with her poor |
| withdraw and say very little. Then colleagues ask, | | | | behavior and we all have to suffer because of it. |
| "What's wrong?" You just want everyone to | | | | - I am angry that my mom isn't around to talk to |
| leave you alone! | | | | anymore. |
| The thing is you have so much emotional energy | | | | - I am upset about Mary getting fired at work. |
| you really don't know what's wrong! You don't | | | | - I am scared about losing my job too. |
| know what you feel! But you do know that soon, | | | | - I am angry that I have to drive out to that |
| you just might explode! | | | | store again to return that item - it's so far away. |
| Why does this happen? | | | | You get the picture. |
| Incidents take place. Change occurs. Multiple things | | | | You may want to console yourself by placing |
| could be happening in your life all at once but | | | | blame or releasing your responsibility by playing a |
| often you are too busy to notice how you feel | | | | victim. |
| about it; you just do whatever needs to be done. | | | | "Mary always talks down to me and I hate it. |
| You stay in action. At the end of the day, you | | | | Why does she always do this to me?" |
| are drained. You don't necessarily acknowledge | | | | "Self-pity has no value. Things happen. They |
| what you've been through or how you feel about | | | | happen to all of us. We each have a story to tell. |
| things in your life. You either pass out or your | | | | There are lessons we all must learn. These |
| mind is so busy racing that you get stuck in | | | | lessons are not personal. Each of us must |
| thinking mode and can't find the shut off valve! | | | | experience our share of loss and pain; it's part of |
| When you experience an emotion, you don't | | | | our human experience. We mustn't be attached |
| always acknowledge it. You "stuff it" so to speak. | | | | to any of it. Each of us must learn to deal with |
| And the emotion gets tucked away. It has to go | | | | hardship and unpleasant feelings, as well as joy |
| somewhere so you store the emotion in your | | | | and pleasant feelings. Suffering is a choice and pity |
| body's attic or closet until such time when it | | | | gets you nowhere." |
| becomes overfilled. Eventually, the emotional | | | | ~ The Little E-Book of Wisdom |
| energy needs to be released. | | | | You are responsible for your emotion. People don't |
| How do you spell relief? | | | | cause you to feel a certain way. People do things |
| Some people enjoy Reiki or other energetic | | | | and events occur and you have thoughts about |
| healing techniques. These are wonderful and | | | | these things. Your thoughts trigger your emotional |
| helpful techniques for eliminating the energy left | | | | state. Don't fuss over why you are feeling |
| behind from emotions when they are not cleared | | | | whatever you are feeling. This exercise is just |
| from your body. | | | | about acknowledging your emotions; there is no |
| Therapy helps too, but I have found that | | | | room for judgment. |
| oftentimes, simply acknowledging the emotions is | | | | AHHH. Relief. |
| enough to release their energetic hold and clear | | | | As you acknowledge the list of upsets and of |
| them away. You can do this by yourself or with | | | | energetic muck you have been holding onto, you'll |
| another person, however, there are some ground | | | | find the energy dissipate. You will feel lighter and |
| rules. | | | | less stressed. You'll feel like the world is being |
| Emotional cleansing is NOT about problem solving | | | | lifted off of your shoulders. |
| or determining solutions. It is simply about | | | | You may even want to take a nap. Go ahead. |
| acknowledging the pain you are holding onto and | | | | You deserve it! |
| releasing the emotional energy stored in your | | | | Some people shift their focus after acknowledging |
| body. | | | | all of the "negative" emotions and start expressing |
| If you do this by yourself, you may wish to write | | | | all of their positive ones such as gratitude and |
| it out on paper. Make a list of everything you are | | | | what they are happy or joyful for, etc. Go with it! |
| angry, fearful, frustrated or upset about. What is | | | | Acknowledging the good emotions is just as |
| going on that is triggering your pain? Just list these | | | | important and many times we stuff those too! All |
| things. And keep listing until you have exhausted | | | | of our emotions deserve our attention, even if |
| your list. | | | | only momentarily. |
| If you have another person assisting you, their | | | | Don't start hoarding again! |
| job is to simply ask you, "what else?" They will | | | | Once you have let go all of the emotional |
| keep you from getting sidetracked. | | | | baggage you have been storing, create a new |
| No one asked for your opinion | | | | system to deal with emotions as they come up. |
| Do not judge. Do not question. Do not try to fix. | | | | Recognize your emotions in the moment or do |
| Do not rationalize. Do not try to minimize your | | | | daily checks before you lay down to sleep. |
| feelings or the event. If you are angry, then be | | | | Review your day to identify emotions you may |
| angry! And just acknowledge that you are angry, | | | | be experiencing from the events and situations |
| upset, fearful, sad, whatever. | | | | you found yourself in. It is a much healthier way |
| Resist the temptation to go on and on about a | | | | to live. |
| particular event. Just note the event or situation | | | | |