| ing healing to family relationships can be one of | | | | it before God is an essential part of the process. |
| the most difficult aspects of the spiritual healing | | | | In this way we are not alone, as the divine |
| process. The reason for this is that we choose to | | | | Creator who is All sees, hears and feels with us. |
| incarnate within our specific families for the | | | | This can be done with prayer, intention, |
| purpose of healing and growth, which often | | | | meditation, creative expression, or any way that |
| challenges us deeply to the core of our being. For | | | | resonates. |
| many of us it may feel as though healing is | | | | Once we have become more conscious of the |
| exactly the opposite of what we are receiving | | | | pain we carry, the next step involves the |
| with our families, as we endure the difficulties and | | | | willingness to let go of our pain. Though on the |
| limitations of our relationships with our parents and | | | | surface it may seem strange to want to hold |
| siblings. | | | | onto pain, there are many deep emotions that |
| Before incarnating, we choose families which can | | | | can become entrenched within us, and wrapped |
| bring to the surface specific issues and themes | | | | around our sense of self. We unconsciously hold |
| that our soul wishes to explore, learn about and | | | | on to the pain, because it is all we have ever |
| heal. Often these issues are challenging and bring | | | | known. For example, if we are carrying anger, |
| to the surface discomfort that we would prefer | | | | hurt or betrayal, we are asked to forgive and to |
| go avoid rather than face. Some people deal with | | | | move on. If we were the victim of abuse or |
| this discomfort by placing blame on their parents | | | | neglect, we are asked to let go of our anger, and |
| or the situation they were born into, which | | | | our entitlement to be angry. This part of the |
| provides a temporary outlet for the emotional | | | | process cannot be rushed, which is why it is so |
| pain they have experienced, but ultimately | | | | important to be willing to feel our emotions fully |
| prevents the free flow of love, light and healing in | | | | first. Once this happens, the next step of healing |
| the heart. | | | | naturally unfolds. |
| As we grow personally and spiritually, there | | | | Once we have traversed these steps of |
| comes a time when we are called to release | | | | becoming conscious, feeling our pain, and being |
| ourselves from the emotional pain we have | | | | willing to let it go, then we are fully available to |
| carried from our childhood. There are steps in this | | | | receive a deep and complete healing. As we |
| process, which may taker a shorter or longer | | | | voluntarily empty ourselves of those things we've |
| time, or which may involve many lifetimes of | | | | been holding onto, more of God’s love |
| learning. | | | | and light can enter our heart, mind and body. The |
| The first step we take is to become conscious of | | | | pathways of life begin to open up and reveal new |
| the pain we are carrying. If we have repressed | | | | directions, new possibilities, and new choices. Our |
| these feelings, they will emerge when we are | | | | hearts begin to open and love blossoms, |
| ready to face them. Sometimes an event such as | | | | forgiveness becomes a way of being, and spiritual |
| an illness or a loss can illuminate feelings we have | | | | awareness awakens within us. These are the gifts |
| buried or forgotten. Once we become conscious | | | | that come through healing family relationships, a |
| of the pain and allow ourselves to simply feel it, | | | | heart full of love and trust, unencumbered by the |
| healing can begin. Being with the pain, and bringing | | | | pain of the past. |