| You have had fights. Or maybe you are not even | | | | If you have decided to stay with your partner, |
| speaking to each other. How do you get back to | | | | make sure you are on the same page. No one |
| being a couple, a family? How do you start healing | | | | should be expected to "just get over" an affair, |
| after an affair? To stop the fight and decrease | | | | so you need to do things together to rebuild. |
| the bitterness, read on. | | | | Pamper yourself |
| Talk it out | | | | Any healing process is difficult. Give yourself a |
| Every one of us needs to vent sometime. Let | | | | few treats to ease your everyday life. |
| yourself vent when you feel the need, but try | | | | Distract yourself |
| not to dwell on it. Constantly talking about it can | | | | Any problem seems less significant if you are |
| sometimes make you increase the problem. | | | | helping someone else. Or, take up a new hobby |
| Instead, vent once or twice, then move on to | | | | that will allow you to release some emotion. Good |
| another topic that interests you. The affair should | | | | ideas can range from an exercise class to up |
| not define you, your life, or your relationship. | | | | your energy levels or an art class to allow you to |
| Do vent though | | | | express some of your anger or find some peace. |
| Healing after an affair is a process. You can help | | | | Spend time with happy people: Let your friends |
| yourself by telling other people how you feel. You | | | | support you. Do fun things with them. Spending |
| may even want to talk to a counselor for a safe | | | | time with your friends is a cue for your body to |
| person to talk to. | | | | release anti-stress hormones. This can help you to |
| Work together | | | | heal. |