Knowing Yourself - The Art of Living Well

John Donne, the English poet, once said: "No manencounter in your life. If you know yourself, you
is an island." Yes, in a way, we are all related towould know what another individual would want.
other people in our lives--whether we are atDalai Lama, the spiritual leader of Tibet, was once
home, work, or play.asked by reporters how he could so easily and
Relationships are at the core of human existence.instantly relate to people of different cultures,
If you understand other people in your life, youreligions, and backgrounds. He promptly replied
will develop better and more positive relationshipsthat he was "simply encountering a fellow human
with them. Understanding people means knowingbeing with the same desire to be happy and to
how to react to them in certain situations, leadingavoid suffering as myself." In other words, an
to good human relationships. Having good humanacute awareness of the needs and wants of any
relationships is the art of living well.individual.
But understanding other people around you mayIndeed, if you know yourself well enough--to
not be easy, especially if you do not understandknow who you are and what you want from
yourself first. By understanding yourself better,life--you would know how to deal with another
you may be able to relate better to other peopleindividual with the same needs and wants as
in your life. Therefore, the key to the art of livingyours. Essentially, treat others as you would like
well is knowing yourself first.to be treated. The problem with many of us is
Why is knowing yourself so important?that we simply don't know ourselves, and
Above the doorway of an ancient Greek templetherefore we don't know others. As a result, we
were written the words "Know Thyself." Thedon't know how to react appropriately in certain
significance of those words was: Knowing yourselfcircumstances, or how to treat others just as we
first! If you know youself, you need not even askwould like to be treated.
the oracle for a prediction of your future. That isThen, how do you know yourself? The best way
to say, if you know yourself, you could answer allto know yourself is to meditate. Meditation is a
your own questions in life. If that is the case, whymental process during which your mind focuses
do you bother to ask the gods? Just askon something seemingly insignificant and irrelevant,
yourself--you hold the answers to all yoursuch as your breathing, so that you can explore
questions in life.your subconscious mind to find out your real
Who are you? That is the question you shouldneeds and priorities in life. Many religions advocate
ask yourself first, rather than what is going tothe practice of meditation as a means to enlighten
happen to your life.the mind and enhance spirituality.
Your Creator has created you for who you areMeditation is easy to practice: it requires only
and what you are. Your worth lies within you, justdiscipline and diligence. Use meditation to know
as Ann Frank said, "Human worth does not lie inyourself, thereby knowing others in your life.
riches or power, but in character or goodness." IfKnowing yourself may surprisingly solve many of
you believe in the goodness in yourself, you wouldyour life problems.
know how to treat another individual you