| How do we overcome self-sabotage - the | | | | business." The tail ender: But if I am successful |
| unconscious beliefs which trip up our sincere | | | | other people will ridicule me the way my father |
| efforts to succeed? | | | | used to." The antidote: I choose to feel respected |
| We can choose to become aware of our | | | | even when I am successful." The final statement: |
| unconscious beliefs through reprogramming | | | | I choose to feel respected even when I am |
| methods such as the one explained in Carolyn | | | | successful in my business." |
| Ball's book, "Claiming Your Self-Esteem." | | | | Here are some additional tips to overcoming |
| We can also use ways to dissolve and release | | | | self-sabotage. |
| these beliefs once we become aware of them. | | | | 1. Do you tend to focus on what is wrong or |
| One way is Byron Katie's, "The Work," which has | | | | missing in your life? Does this attract more of the |
| questions for releasing beliefs which no longer | | | | same? Instead focus on all the things that do |
| serve us. The four questions include: | | | | work. The Law of Attraction says, Where your |
| 1. Is this belief true? | | | | attention goes, your energy flows. |
| 2. Who would I be without the thought? | | | | 2. Do you spend a lot of time worrying about or |
| 3. Could I let this go? | | | | fearing the future? Instead focus on solutions and |
| 4. Would I let this go? When? | | | | take action when you can. Even small actions can |
| Then like Carolyn Ball's reprogramming method | | | | make a difference. |
| choose a new belief. | | | | 3. Do you sabotage by comparing yourself to |
| Joe Vitale in The Key also has a method of | | | | others and then feel bad? Instead think about, |
| reprogramming unconscious beliefs, which block | | | | write out, and focus on daily qualities or strengths |
| attracting our intents. Joe says, We are | | | | you have or can develop. |
| unconsciously attracting the wrong things. The | | | | 4. Do you feel worthless or less than? Do you |
| Key tells of Joe's journey out of poverty. | | | | make excuses for yourself? Begin looking in the |
| The Emotional Freedom Technique - EFT - also | | | | mirror, morning and evening, and say, I love |
| has a method for dealing with subconscious | | | | myself. Your critical thoughts will emerge. Pay |
| objections or yes-buts that may arise to | | | | attention to them and continue the mirror |
| sabotage the positive affirmations used as part of | | | | exercise for a minimum of twenty-one days |
| the EFT. Gary Craig, the founder of EFT, calls the | | | | straight. What do you notice has changed? Do |
| yes-buts "tail enders." | | | | you value and appreciate yourself more? |
| EFT combines tapping certain acupressure points | | | | 5. Do you live in the past, in past failures? |
| on the body while repeating a specific choice | | | | Consider how can you learn from your failures |
| statement to release physical or emotional issues. | | | | and grow? |
| The method would include the original statement | | | | (c) Copyright - Michael David Lawrience. All Rights |
| and an antidote to the tail ender. For example, the | | | | Reserved Worldwide. |
| original choice: "I choose to be successful in my | | | | |