| I was recently asked by one of my clients, "I am | | | | very difficult for us to heal because part of us |
| in talk therapy and I do my Emotional Freedom | | | | believes healing is bad for us. In these cases it is a |
| Technique (EFT). I think I have been not | | | | great idea to start with the resistance to healing |
| succeeding/just barely making it, because I am | | | | before we work on the main issue at hand. |
| worried my mother is going to take credit for my | | | | In the example of this the questions I would begin |
| success (just like she did when I was younger). I | | | | with doing work on the fact you are worried your |
| am stuck and am not sure that I want to be | | | | mother is going to take credit for your progress. |
| unstuck because of this fear. Any suggestions?" | | | | Possible tapping phrases might look something like |
| I have encountered many clients who want to | | | | this: |
| heal something in their lives, but on some level | | | | Even though I am worried that my mother is |
| they perceive there is a penalty for getting | | | | going to take credit for my progress I love and |
| better. | | | | accept myself. |
| They think if I get better: | | | | Even though my mother always takes credit for |
| - Others are going to be jealous of my progress. | | | | all my progress I give myself permission to heal |
| - I am going to back side again and that sort of | | | | It doesn't matter if my mother takes credit for |
| failure will be devastating. | | | | my progress the most important thing is that I |
| - If I heal my friends who have the same | | | | am healing. |
| problem won't like me any more. (This is a very | | | | Even if my mother takes credit for my progress |
| common for weight loss clients. They think, "If I | | | | I know in my heart I am the root of all my |
| lose weight my fat friends will be jealous and not | | | | healing and progress. |
| like me any more") | | | | It is more important that I heal than worry m |
| - If I get better others are going take credit for | | | | mother is going to take credit for my progress |
| my progress. | | | | I don't care if my mother takes credit for my |
| - I don't know how to act healthy. | | | | progress |
| - People only give me attention to help me with | | | | I give myself permission to heal regardless of |
| my problem. If my problem goes away no one | | | | what other people are going to say and do. |
| will pay attention to me. | | | | I deserve to heal, regardless of how others are |
| When we have beliefs like these it is going to be | | | | going to act. |